reverb10: wisdom is being open-hearted


December 10 – Wisdom Wisdom. What was the wisest decision you made this year, and how did it play out? (Author: Susannah Conway)

I've been struggling with this question because I think there are some assumptions here about decision making that trigger these "good v. bad; wise v. unwise" dichotomies I've been trying to resist in my thinking this year. I've tried to allow my decisions to simply be instead of judging myself on some kind of unrealistic, predetermined scale. It's no secret I don't always think decisions through and then other times I overthink them to the point of exhaustion. It's also no secret that while I am deeply intellectual, my common sense is often... well, missing. I don't take direct routes to anything, anywhere. So, I wouldn't consider myself someone who makes decisions born of wisdom. I make decisions based on how I feel; I call my parents and friends and seek feedback on the bigger decisions. I mean, let's face it, we make decisions every day, choosing to take one route over another, choosing how we act and react, choosing what we eat, choosing to be kind.

The Talmud says, "The highest form of wisdom is kindness" and I've been making efforts to be more kind--to myself and to others. I talked about this before in multiple posts on compassion, on being kind but I come back to this quote by someone I consider truly wise Pema Chodron:

When you begin to touch your heart or let your heart be touched, you begin to discover that it’s bottomless, that it doesn’t have any resolution, that this heart is huge, vast, and limitless. You begin to discover how much warmth and gentleness is there, as well as how much space.

So I suppose the wisest thing I did was to attempt to practice compassion and kindness by first trying to be open-hearted.