#reverb11: a list of 5's

  1. What are 5 things you have done for yourself in 2011?
  2. What are 5 things you have done for others in 2011?
  3. What are 5 things that held you back from doing things for others?
  4. What are 5 things that you want to do for yourself in 2012?
  5. What are 5 things you want to do for others in 2012?

What are 5 things you have done for yourself in 2011?

1. Let myself off the hook. I don't always do a good job of being kind to myself. I let doubt slip in easily but I worked hard this year to let myself off the hook on some things. Around my birthday, I made a 33x33 list, a list of stuff I wanted to do this year. I had my word for 2011, thrive, in mind when I made it. When I revisited it a few weeks ago, I allowed myself to cross things off that weren't going to happen AND NOT FEEL BAD OR GUILTY about it. I feel good about what I HAVE done and am excited to make a new list for 34 that reflects my word for 2012, tend

2. I made playlists on Spotify and sang to them loudly and off-key whenever I could. I have said this before and it's especially true this year: I need to lighten up! I'm too serious for my own good sometimes. A really good song can shake me from a funk and create a whole new mood for me. I dedicated myself to finding music to rescue me, to feed me, to make me smile. It was a good year in my musical life. I bought CD's again. 

Since the album was released in early 2011 and especially this summer, I mostly listened to Adele, Mumford and Sons, John Mayer, Bon Iver and Fitz and the Tantrums. As new stuff like Ryan Adams' album, Florence + Machine and The Days came out, I integrated them into the rotation. I discovered new stuff, too like Paloma Faith, Ellie Goulding and the bird & the bee with whom I am obsessed, particularly their Hall & Oates covers; talk about guilty pleasure! 

3. I got married. I didn't do this completely selfishly, of course, but yeah, I did it because I wanted to; I did it for me. I had hopes that we would be more embraced by my family and there was a part of me that was apprehensive about the potential fall out. I did it anyway. Because it's my life; because doing so made me happy; because I've never felt more happy or loved. Ever. 

4. Photography. Buying a new camera ignited the creative spark again, one I didn't even know I'd given up. M and I have been talking about doing more with poetry, lyrics and our photographs. It's so amazing to be able to share this passion and creative outlet. I'm beyond grateful for it. 

5. Said No. I'm terrible at telling people, "No." I want people to see me as a team player, as a good friend; I want to help people. I'm especially bad at this in a work setting when authority is involved. But this year, I did it. I stood up for a few things that were important to me and I bowed out of almost everything else in order to focus energies elsewhere, on new paths, new outlets. It was the absolute best thing for my sanity. 

 What are 5 things you have done for others in 2011? 

1. I have taken photographs (family, wedding, baby) for my friends and others at little to no cost.

2. I woke up at 2:30 a.m. to take M to work on Black Friday.

3. I gave rides to our friend, Josh, once or twice a month and maybe more. :) 

4. I loaned a student an extra copy of the textbook we used for class while she waited for financial aid to kick in.

5. I dog sat/cat sat/house sat for a number of my friends this year.

What are 5 things that held you back from doing things for others? 

1. Time management 

2. Money

3. Fear

4. Selfishness

5. Doubt

What are 5 things you want to do for yourself in 2012?

1. Read more. I always want to read more. 

2. Dream. I used to have big dreams. I'd like to give myself permission to hope and wish for things again. Imagine the possibilities.

3. Be more responsible with money. 

4. Meditate. Relax. Chill out.

5. Find ways to make research fun again.

What are 5 things you want to do for others in 2012?

 1. I want to do random acts of kindness for an entire day. 

2. Let people I love know what they mean to me. 

3. I'd like to be someone people can count on, not in a way that allows me to be taken advantage of but in a way that I'm called in a crisis or asked my opinion. 

4. Help students realize the importance of story. Give them a place to share theirs. 

5. Listen.