heart days

I know Valentine's Day is a commercialized, ridiculous, excuse of a holiday but it's a good excuse, I think, to acknowledge that I'm lucky. I was lucky when I was single and had girl's nights out, cursing Cupid and the idea of a Love Holiday. I was lucky because I was surrounded by people who got me, who weren't afraid of my passion or intensity. I was lucky when I was dating to be an object of someone's affection, to get chocolate hearts and flowers, but mostly to be told "I love you," or some romantic equivalent.

My first V Day with M 5 years ago was sweet and low key. She gave me a really cute red bear, one that I still have, not knowing that I'd never been given a bear before as a romantic gesture. We made t-shirts for one another with iron-on stickers and watched the premiere of the L Word. Last year we were snowed in and begged our friends to help us dig out of our parking lot so we could eat McDonald's and buy a shovel. The year before (2 years ago) we went to Peoria and had an awesome time just being together. And so I planned our Valentine's weekend for another trip to Peoria. At first, when I thought of doing something I considered going to Indianapolis because it's a place we haven't really explored. But I didn't want to go for Valentine's Day because my friend from grad school lives there and I wouldn't want to be in her neck of the woods and not see her but then it's Valentine's Day and it might be weird so... I decided to go back to Peoria for a fun weekend.

But most of all, I wanted to spend time with M. Our lives have been so busy lately, there's not a lot of time to just hang out. Any free time is usually filled with something. As far as Valentine's days go, I think just getting away and being together was worth it. But then again, we would have fun no matter what we did. And that is just one of many reasons I'm in love with M. I feel no pressure to plan some big to do and we don't compete when we plan trips or romantic nights out. Just setting time aside for us is enough of a gesture for me. And so when I saw the heart shaped box of chocolates with a card with a message inside that said, "Happy Heart Day," I felt incredibly and absolutely lucky.

I hope that no matter what you did to celebrate heart day that you felt lucky, too.

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